No-Drama Discipline | Daniel Siegel clinical professor of psychiatry.
The pioneering expert behind The Whole-Brain Child—Daniel J. Siegel explores the ultimate child-raising challenge: discipline. The No-Drama Discipline approach provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears—without causing a scene. Learn about child brain development and what kind of strategies work best for to calmly and lovingly connect with a child—no matter how extreme the behavior—while still setting clear and consistent limits.
1) How to teach your kids about the brain and how it functions when they are feeling or thinking thoughts that are overwhelming (flip their lid)? You have the highest part of the brain, which is the cortex, and below it are the limbic area and your brain stem attached to your spinal chord. When it's working together, it is integrated, balanced, flexible and adaptable. Knowing about the brain will help your child empower themselves. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=1m21s
2) What don't we understand about time outs? Is it too late to try new parenting techniques? Adolescence goes all the way into the 20's and these brain-oriented techniques can be used all the way up to then. Daniel describes the incorrect understanding that parents have about discipline and what you want a child to learn. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=6m32s
3) Does this technique take a long time to learn and get installed? https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=10m16s
4) How can your parenting mistakes even benefit a child? When you apologize to your kids you teach your child about self-reflection and how to repair a rupture. These are skills you can teach your kids. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=13m54s
5) What are skills you want to teach your child? Daniel believes we want to teach our kids self-awareness, other awareness, and integration (Mindsight) https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=14m36s
6)Why is this parenting style best? This interpersonal neurobiology is relationship focused. It's about how you can optimize my relationship with my child by knowing about relationships (how do we communicate together), the mind (feeling, thoughts, memories), and the brain. Inter (between) +Personal (within) + neurobiology (our relationships are shaped by our bodies). https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=17m05s
7) How does this work help a child develop consciousness? Why is integration so important in creating a resilient child? https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=19m51s
8) How does the digital world affect our connection that gives us a deep sense of belonging and understanding? Daniel explains how online connections can sometime make us feel more alone and alienated for those with social disorders or autistic kids. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=23m09s
9) Why is face-to-face time important? What is the danger of texting only as a way of communicating? Daniel describes the healthy mind platter. Face-to-face time and the art of conversation is a daily nutrient. . The building blocks of conversation (eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, posture,gestures, timing, and intensity) are important to teach your kids. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=27m48s
10) Should we just accept our child's move toward technology as evolution? Daniel Siegel differentiates cultural Evolution, which is shapeable from biological and genetic evolution. IN addition, he points out that the primary concern is one of Individual development . Siegel shares his own concern as electronics move us a way from a sense of well being because of the human connection being lost. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=35m26s
11) How can technologies build a sense of human connection? Humans perceive the physical aspect of the world (eyesight) and the other is to see the mental experience of the individuals (mindset). Mindset helps you understand a person's subjective experience (the life story, the meaning in someone's life, you want to learn their life story, and their memories). Good relationships equal productivity. https://youtu.be/6xakPtVOmq4?t=38m40s
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